University study on online dating

01 Jun

They are an expensive rip-off for many women over 45.

Speaking as someone who was recently “commoditized” by who I thought was a wonderful man I met on a dating site, I find that the types of people who use these services are looking at the wrong metrics when they seek out a prospective love interest.

Instead, the results indicate that you are probably looking for "deal breakers," harshly eliminating those who do not live up to your standards. People met their romantic partners through the recommendations of friends, family, or even at real-world locations known as "bars." Whatever signals and decisions led people to couple up were lost to science. According to the Pew Research Center, 5% of Americans in a committed romantic relationship say they met their partner through an online dating site.

Those 30 million people have generated billions of pieces of data.

Because of a nondisclosure agreement, the researchers can't reveal the exact source of their subjects, describing it only as an "established, marriage-oriented, subscription-based dating site" from which they randomly selected 1855 people, all based in New York City.

Besides photographs, each user's profile could include any number of personal details including age, height, weight, education, marital status, number of children, and smoking and drinking habits.

Last November 2013 I saw his profile on a dating site.

My husband had died four years ago and his wife died 11 years ago. I questioned him about his continued online search as I had access to his username.

But beyond someone's looks, how much do any of these factors matter for mate selection?

My mother and father had very few hobbies and interests in common, but because they shared the same core values, their love endured a lifetime. O.’s interests exactly down the line, I realized how dangerous this line of thinking truly is, how it marginalizes people who really want to give and receive love for more important reasons.

I met a few potential love interests online and I never paid for any matching service!

Having fallen under this spell myself…”Oh, he’s nice but I’m sure there’s something better on the next page…” Click.

When you’re online dating, why do you swipe left on one person and swipe right on another?